Yes, my oldest daughter scrolls, posts, and video talks. Yes, she is acutely concious of when it is “time” to renew the wardrobe with a handful of new pieces from the most current fashion trends. Yes, this lady often rolls her little brown eyes at my “weird” behaviors. And yes, friends are at the very best of her sharing list these days.
Which includes a palpable gratitude for all in the opportunities and lessons learned from her previous camp experiences, she began to share her deeper thoughts on the following subject and beyond. The girl shared that while camp is touted as a method to be fully and authentically yourself, create a sisterhood, extend a connection to nature, and explore your core because of contemplation and solitude, the point of it all is to arrive to understand that inner bond is available anywhere, anytime, and most importantly in the NOW.
While some parents would like status, monetary reward and upward societal movement with regard to children–none of which are negative per say–beyond those outside walls pursuits, my deepest heart’s desire for mine can be voiced most succinctly through Shakespeare, “To thine own do it yourself be true. ” EnLIGHTenment at its best.
I was truly impressed by her expression of deep wisdom that has used many of us divorces, health maladies, and endless searches through different veins of the outdoor world to figure out. What your dear girl was announcing through the example of summer season camp–one of any likely outer examples–probably resonates with most of us when looked at meticulously.
Whereas we encouraged all of our infants to try overnight camp at least once, we have told her that your decision to return is now definitely up to her. As the discussion ensued, I started to be almost mesmerized by the girl’s capacity to articulate the girl’s vantage point on the subject.
Yes, my little girl has her challenges, her snarky attitudes, her minutes of self-doubt. Yes, your lady can sometimes be mean to the girl’s siblings, sassy to the girl’s parents, generally ornery. Even though, underneath it all are ever-expanding and deep cracks of self-awareness, self-love and true empathy for others that will serve but not only her, but the world in particular, quite well.
She even voiced that the songs about sisterhood, respect, and caring, a large number of with a “free to be you” theme, seemed a bit random to her now, providing that while appreciative for the sentiment, she hoped which usually her fellow campers felt free to be themselves above the activities in nature, public cabins, and family restaurants. In short, everywhere.
This lady went on to give the case of seeing quite plainly that she doesn’t will need to go anywhere specific (camp), do anything special (canoe) or be anything different (a camper) to come to feel authentic, open, connected and free. While she surely views camp as a great thing, she knows that she’s enough just as she is with or without camp to remind her of that intrinsic knowing.
Indeed, a typical young adult in so many ways, EXCEPT for underneath the North Face overcoat and the Ugg boots, lurking behind the gaggle of giddy girlfriends and the fluorescent video display, and even beyond our passionate family discussions and shared dinners, there lies a self-awareness and interior starting that seems unfathomable for any child her age.
We do not need to go someplace special or do something unusual to live our own truth. In other words, freedom to be comfortable in your own skin should not be preserved for places that we take a look at three weeks a year. Self-Love can be cultivated in all solutions, always.
Not necessarily what I experienced a few years back (alright twenty-six years back to be exact) with the tender age of 14. Recently my daughter and I were discussing no matter whether she would attend, once again, a good three week all girls’ camp for the 5th summer in a row.
She promised me that she hasn’t been “knocking” camp in any way and may also choose to return, but any time she does go back meant for another year or three, it would not be considering that camp experience allows her to feel more authentic in any way. Her return would be based on the conscious, main (soul) choice to attend considering she enJOYs the experience not because it is a “safe” method to be herself fully in the world.